Finding True Happiness: Aligning with Your Authentic Self

There was a time when I consistently felt unhappy and unfulfilled. I blamed my discontent on external factors—other people's actions, circumstances beyond my control, and societal expectations. It took a while to realise that the true source of my unhappiness was not outside of me but within.

I discovered that my unhappiness stemmed from living out of alignment with my authentic self. I was constantly trying to fit into roles and expectations that did not resonate with who I truly am. This disconnection created a persistent dissatisfaction as if something crucial was missing from my life.

Embarking on a journey of self-exploration, I turned to therapeutic practices like Internal Family Systems, Somatic Embodied Practices, and heartMath techniques. These methods helped me peel back the layers of external conditioning and reconnect with my inner self. Through this process, I understood my true values, passions, and desires.

I didn’t take a purely spiritual path because I didn’t want to bypass any of my feelings. Spirituality has its place, but authenticity is about really feeling your past to grow into your future. I confronted my emotions head-on, embracing every part of my journey, even the difficult and painful aspects. This commitment to authenticity allowed me to heal deeply and grow more profoundly.

As I aligned more closely with my authentic self, I noticed a significant shift in my happiness. I stopped blaming others for my feelings and took responsibility for my own well-being. This meant making choices that resonated with my true nature, even if they differed from what others expected of me.

Living aligned with who I am has brought a profound sense of peace and fulfilment. I no longer feel the constant need to conform or seek approval from others. Instead, I find joy in being true to myself and in making decisions that reflect my inner values and desires.

If you find yourself feeling unhappy, I encourage you to look within. Examine whether your actions and choices are in harmony with your true self. It might be time to embark on a journey of self-discovery and alignment. True happiness comes from within, and living authentically is the key to unlocking it.